philosophy

Why is it called a freudian slip? Because Freud believed that your subconscious would occasionally get a word out before your conscious could think about it. I've learned a lot about people from their freudian slips. I try not to judge, or let my feelings get hurt, but it does shed some light on the relationships that you have, or thought you had anyway. In the past, I have bent over backwards to try to please others; however, I've always ended up with nothing more to show than a sore back. So I have reverted to the tried and true golden rule.
Freud said "Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise." I think it also holds true for each other. It is only that when we are entirely honest (like it or not) that we truly learn who each other are and with that, flaws and strengths. I believe that when you can truly see someone for who they are and are not afraid to be yourself then there are no reasons to bend over backwards just to give a smile.
On the other hand, I was also told, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
So I suppose I will treat others with the kindness and honesty that I would like reciprocated, and hold my tongue when I can't be nice.